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Monday, November 14, 2016

Do 50-Year-Old Women Really Need a Sex Life?

Reprinted from Newsweek  -       

A happy sex life for older women is still very possible, but you have to make an effort.


Can you have hot sex forever? No problem—just stick to a careful diet, regular Pilates and the miracles of modern medicine. At least that's the message we're getting from the recent burst of celebrity cougar mania and new advertising campaigns from pharmaceutical companies promising that hormones will restore our aging bodies to their former glory. But is it reasonable for women over 50 to expect the same level of sexual satisfaction and drive as a 25-year-old? And is this what women really want?

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Mature woman sitting on bed


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On one level, just asking these questions represents progress. In Victorian times, for example, doctors routinely warned midlife women to abstain because intercourse past menopause could be fatal. The exact mechanism for this predicted demise wasn't always clear, but physicians of that era did believe it was dangerous for older women to even think about sexual activity because erotic thoughts might, among other evils, evoke regrets for lost allure and those regrets could trigger disease. Medical literature and popular culture of the time (mostly written by men, of course) often portrayed women over 50 as borderline insane . . .

But there are certainly very real challenges. Women's bodies change as they get older—no matter how much yoga or liposuction they can afford. A slower metabolism makes staying slim a struggle. That's why the vast majority of American women over 45 are either overweight or obese. In order to enjoy sex, you have to feel that you're sexy. That's not easy if your self-esteem is tied to unrealistic images of eternal youth . . .

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Older woman wearing black bra and panties and black stockings


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Even for women who maintain a size 4, satisfying sex after 50 can be difficult. In a 2007 University of Chicago study published in The New England Journal of Medicine, half of sexually active

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Americans aged 57-85—male and female—reported bothersome sexual problems. The biggest issue for women is generally the lack of an able partner, usually because of death, divorce or erectile dysfunction (in spite of Viagra). But even many women with partners struggle to find sexual satisfaction. At some point in their lives, about 20 percent of women experience painful intercourse, a condition called dyspareunia. When this happens to women after menopause, it's often because of hormonal changes in vaginal tissue—hence the ad campaigns for vaginal estrogen. (But don't self-diagnose. Talk to your doctor. The pain could also be caused by another problem, such as infection, an allergic reaction or even an early warning of developing cancer.)

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Older woman sitting in car exposing her white panties


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Older women want to have the same sex life they had at 25


Many women find that their libidos take a nose dive as they get older. Hormones may play a role here, too, but low desire can also reflect how a woman feels about aging, her fitness level, stress, medications she is taking or problems in her relationship. Scientists used to think that men and women experienced sex the same way—in effect, a straight line from desire to arousal to orgasm. But now they see female sexual progression as a circle, with many interrelated factors—emotional intimacy, arousal, emotional and physical satisfaction and desire. Men can take a pill to stay aroused and enjoy sex as they get older, but women's responses are far more complex.

If you don't have a partner at the moment, it's still important to keep the vaginal area healthy. Doctors say that when it comes to sex, the best advice is use it or lose it. Sexual activity encourages blood flow, which helps keep vaginal tissue healthy and makes it easier to become lubricated. Without a partner, of course, this means DIY (masturbating). Kegel exercises are also a good idea to strengthen the pelvic-floor muscles.

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Older woman in red bra and panties

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The bottom line? A happy sex life after 50 is still very possible, but you have to make an effort. Feeling good in your own skin and being open-minded and creative are what sexy is all about. In fact, many midlife women say sex gets better after menopause because they are comfortable with who they are, they know what they like and how to ask for it, and they don't have to worry about bleeding or pregnancy. Of course, it's also important to stay as healthy and fit as possible. But try to block out all the cultural messages that say that if you don't look like you're 20, you're not sexy. Our personal favorite role model there is actress Helen Mirren, still sexy and glorious and proudly 63. And—by the way—still rocking a bikini.

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